How is Life Tree(ting) You?: The ‘Annual Transition Cry’ – Cherrial’s Story
As a new student: Coming to Stanford I didn’t have many expectations, which worked in my favor. I was able to just be present in my new experience and let each day bring what it may. Of course, I was nervous and cried, but I felt ready to jump into this new adventure. Having that perspective of “a new adventure” rather than dwelling on everything I was leaving behind was extremely helpful. My freshman year transition ended up being really enjoyable because of this mindset. However, as the days of NSO went by I started to feel my energy and excitement drop. I had met so many people, but felt like I hadn’t found “my people” as I watched so many friend groups form. But instead of letting that bring me down, I began to direct my energy to build a routine in this new setting – one filled with activities that I knew would recharge my battery and bring me peace. I began to seek out groups that would align with my interests: student orgs/clubs and religious/spiritual groups. As you come to Stanford you will meet so many people. You might be lucky enough to find your people right away in your Freshman dorm, but you also might not and that’s okay. I just had to be patient and seek out groups that share my interests and values.
As a returning student: I have an inside joke with my friends and family that I have my “annual transition cry” every time I leave to go back to school. For me it’s a mix of things; leaving my friends and family, going back into an environment much different than home: one that is wonderful in a lot of ways and that I am grateful for, but also one that sometimes brings up so much loneliness, insecurity, and social anxiety. For me transition is uncomfortable, but that discomfort has led to so much personal growth that I wouldn’t trade for instant comfort, because I know in the long term this temporary discomfort will help me feel more comfortable in myself long term. I have also found ways to care for myself during times of difficulty through my own personal tools such as journaling, meditating, walking, exercising, reaching out to my family/friends, and getting into a routine.
Whatever your experience is, whether similar or different from my own, know there are many resources to support you on campus whether that be mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically or socially. There are places that exist here for all of them. Most importantly, there is a place here for you at Stanford. You belong here!
Written by: Cherrial Odell, Class of 2025
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Stanford Resources
- Mental Health Resources at Stanford: This student mental health hub is your go-to website to help you navigate the many mental health and well-being resources at Stanford. Take time to learn about the professional staff, peers, and other campus resources that are ready to support you.
- Find your community at Stanford! These resources can help you find a sense of belonging and connection on campus, both of which are important to your well-being:
- Dealing with Transition Academic Advising: Read about how a Stanford alumnae managed their transition to campus.